What Picture Do You See?

Recently I was channel surfing, disappointed that I wasn’t finding something to pique my interest.  Just about when I had given up, I happened upon a PBS channel that I didn’t even realize was in my service area.  A young man was talking about his passion for rescue animals and how in trying to save them he had found his career in being an animal photographer.  He was speaking to a group of volunteers who were interested in using their photographic skills to help the shelter animals as well.  He began by asking them to consider the infomercials on television that show one pathetic and sad animal after another and how those pictures made them feel.  He followed up by asking how many of them turned the channel because it was just too sad to watch.  Most responded with a nod or a raised hand of agreement. 

He went on to say that his goal was to show these same animals in a positive light by taking pictures of them that showed them to be alert, interested, and a pet that you could actually see yourself having in your home.  He described and demonstrated how he worked with the animals and talked about being at their eye level, capturing their attention, and then quickly snapping the pictures. 

If nothing else, this presentation reminded me how important the “picture we paint” really is.  We at Entrusted Legacy believe that every youth needs and deserves a positive role model and mentor.  We believe that these role models and mentors must receive training so they can be effective and have a positive impact on the youth.  We believe that these role models and mentors have “best days” yet to come and we believe that the results of the positive interactions between youth and adults will pay big dividends.  We believe that our pictures are of caring, dedicated adults, and bright, eager youth who just need a bit of support.  We hope you join with us in capturing a picture of possibility and passion.  At Entrusted Legacy we ask you to entrust your legacy with us and help us to highlight the great work of those in the afterschool world and strengthen their opportunity to be a positive influence on the youth they serve.  Go to our website at www.enturstedlegacy.org and DONATE now.

Why Is Delayed Gratification Such An Important Trait?

We live in an instant world.  When you are talking with someone and a question is raised, before you know it they’ve whipped out a smart phone and are looking for the answer.  We have instant mashed potatoes, instant pudding, instant messaging, and instant credit.  A lot of work has been done around the importance of delayed gratification.  Below is an article that you might find interesting.

"The Power of Delaying Gratification"

“In 1970 psychologist Walter Mischel famously placed a cookie in front of a group of children and gave them a choice: they could eat the cookie immediately, or they could wait until he returned from a brief errand and then be rewarded with a second. If they didn’t wait, however, they’d be allowed to eat only the first one. Not surprisingly, once he left the room, many children ate the cookie almost immediately. A few, though, resisted eating the first cookie long enough to receive the second. Mischel termed these children high-delay children.

Interestingly, the children who were best able to delay gratification subsequently did better in school and had fewer behavioral problems than the children who could only resist eating the cookie for a few minutes—and, further, ended up on average with SAT scores that were 210 points higher. As adults, the high-delay children completed college at higher rates than the other children and then went on to earn higher incomes. In contrast, the children who had the most trouble delaying gratification had higher rates of incarceration as adults and were more likely to struggle with drug and alcohol addiction.

Which all suggests that the ability to delay gratification—that is, impulse control—may be one of the most important skills to learn to have a satisfying and successful life. The question is, how do we learn it?

The answer may lie in the strategies Mischel's high-delay children used. Rather than resist the urge to eat the cookie, these children distracted themselves from the urge itself. They played with toys in the room, sang songs to themselves, and looked everywhere but at the cookie. In short, they did everything they could to put the cookie out of their minds.

Taking his cue from these high-delay children, in a second study, Mischel placed two marshmallows side by side in front of a different group of children to whom he explained, as in the previous study, that eating the first before he returned to the room would mean they couldn’t eat the second. He then instructed one group of them to imagine when he stepped out of the room how much marshmallows are like clouds: round, white, and puffy. (He instructed a control group, in contrast, to imagine how sweet and chewy and soft they were.) A third group he instructed to visualize the crunchiness and saltiness of pretzels. Perhaps not surprisingly, the children who visualized the qualities of the marshmallows that were unrelated to eating them (that is, the way in which they were similar to clouds) waited almost three times longer than children who were instructed to visualize how delicious the marshmallows would taste. Most intriguing, however, was that picturing the pleasure of eating pretzels produced the longest delay in gratification of all. Apparently, imagining the pleasure they’d feel from indulging in an unavailable temptation distracted the children even more than cognitively restructuring the way they thought about the temptation before them.

In other words, one of the most effective ways to distract ourselves from a tempting pleasure we don't want to indulge is by focusing on another pleasure. So the next time you find yourself confronted with a temptation—whether a piece of cake, a drink of alcohol, or a psychoactive drug—don't employ willpower to resist it. Send your attention somewhere else by imagining a different pleasure not immediately available to you. For if you can successfully turn your attention elsewhere until the temptation is removed from your environment or you remove yourself from its environment, the odds that you'll give in to your impulse will decrease more than with almost any other intervention you can try.”

If you’d like to learn more about this topic, check out Dr. Alex Lickerman's book, The Undefeated Mind, which is available at Amazon.com.  You might be an interesting read.

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Developing “Grit”

Don’t know about you, but when I hear the word “grit”, the first thinking I think about is the old John Wayne movie (I know, they’ve remade it recently) “True Grit”.  Whether you watched the John Wayne or the Jeff Bridges version, you know that the person with grit is the young woman, Mattie Ross, who is unwilling to take “no” for an answer and is insistent and determined to get the help she wants. 

The second thought I have when I hear the word “grit” is sandpaper.  Grit, when you are thinking about sandpaper, has to do with “the number of sharp particles per square inch of sandpaper.”  Grit size is important when you are trying to do a particular job.  For instance if you are stripping a finish off of a board, you may want 20 to 60 grit, while if you finishing a wooden cabinet you would want fine sandpaper with a grit between 360-600.  The grit of the paper will determine the finish that you get.

According to Wiki, "Grit Personality Trait" “Grit in psychology is a positive, non-cognitive trait, based on an individual’s passion for a particular long-term goal or end state coupled with a powerful motivation to achieve their respective objective. This perseverance of effort promotes the overcoming of obstacles or challenges that lie within a gritty individual’s path to accomplishment and serves as a driving force in achievement realization.” 

Angela Duckworth, former middle and high school math teacher, has done research about grit in her current position as Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania.  She wondered what role effort played in achievement.  Her work suggests that “when it comes to high achievement, grit may be as essential as intelligence.”  Her work is significant.  Intelligence “is probably the best-measured trait that there is in all of human psychology,” says Duckworth. “We know how to measure intelligence in a matter of minutes.  But intelligence leaves a lot unexplained. There are smart people who aren’t high achievers, and there are people who achieve a lot without having the highest test scores.”  Duckworth found in a study of students from an Ivy League school, that the people with the highest GPA’s were not the people with the highest IQs but rather the folks with the most grit and determination.  Duckworth has developed a “Grit Scale” to guide her work which you can find and take on the University’s website.

When we work with young people, we need to remember the importance of grit, the commitment to not giving up and throwing in the towel.  We need to encourage the development of perseverance and resiliency.  We believe that adult role models and mentors can be an inspiration and guide to young people.  Entrusted Legacy is committed to helping youth and adults develop this key characteristic.  Get in touch at support@entrustedlegacy.org

Many Hands Make Hard Work Light

What do hands, synergy and recycling have in common?  How do these three distinct things connect. 

When I was young, my mother used to tell my sister and me, “many hands make hard work light.”  We knew that those weren’t her words originally, I’m not sure how, but we got the message.  She expected us to work together and help each other out whether that was folding clothes, weeding the garden or doing the nightly dishes.  Many times she joined her hands with ours to make the work lighter for all of us. 

Steven Covey would share that we need to work together to synergize and not only make hard work lighter but change the face of the hard work altogether.  He believed that by working together, working to understand one another we created a space for something better that any one of us could have thought of on our own.  He labeled this notion as Habit #6. 

I would also like you to consider the whole notion of recycling.  Fifty years ago people may have saved things but it was not because they were interested in recycling but rather because many of them had lived through the Great Depression and learned that is was best to throw away nothing.  However their children (the Baby Boomers) learned that the world was disposable.  Evidence of this can be found in the Great Pacific Garbage Patch which stretches for hundreds of miles and have formed a nebulous, floating junk yard.  However, as our consciousness was raised, recycling hit most everyone’s radar and it is challenging to throw anything away that we think might recycle.  You find “blue cans” regularly, even in cities that require you to pay for the privilege of recycling.  The notion of many hands applies to this as does the notion of synergizing to accomplish something you couldn’t do on your own. 

Now it seems to me that out-of-school time should want to be the “next recycling” effort.  Imagine what would happen if everyone understood that afterschool programs are as essential as recycling.    What if everyone understood how important role models and mentors are for the youth who spend time in the afterschool programs?  What if everyone understood that if everyone does a little, what we end up with is a lot? 

Please join us in making a difference. Contact us at www.entrustedlegacy.org or at support@entrustedlegacy.org

Everyone Needs A Mentor

Entrusted Legacy’s mission is to see to it the people who work with kids in afterschool programs have the training and development they need to be a positive role model and mentor.  The importance of positive role models has been documented.  The Health and Guidance Organization says “Role models are highly important for us psychologically, helping to guide us through life during our development, to make important decisions that affect the outcome of our lives, and to help us find happiness in later life.”  

"The Health Guidance for Better Health "  They go on to say, “A good role model should be someone hard working, creative, free thinking and moral.”  At Entrusted Legacy we believe that we can connect people to the training they need to be successful. 

Role modeling and mentoring go hand in hand.  Mentors provide guidance, inspiration and an "Engine"  that catapults the student farther and faster than [he/she] would by [his/her]s own means. To be a mentor is to leave a legacy to a fellow human being and hence to society at large. Mentoring has long been a tradition of humanity. It is the way we learn naturally.”  Mirna Santana "The Importance of Having a Mentor"

The United States Justice Department agrees.  Public Service announcements tout the importance of becoming a mentor to the youth in your own neighborhood and community.  Eric Holder, Attorney General states, “Join with the Justice Department in defending childhood.” 

We encourage you to join with Entrusted Legacy to sponsor afterschool professionals as they become the mentors and role models that they would like to be and our youth deserve.  Check out our website at "Entrusted Legacy" or contact us a support@entrustedlegacy.org